Experience counts
Before getting married, jitters can be expected – this is a normal reaction to an existential change which will determine the rest of your life. Not being nervous would be the strange reaction. However, there are many ways to calm the nerves and get ready for the big day. One such was is to speak to people who have already been through it all before. Speak to friends and family members who have already been through it all and they will tell you that they went through the same feelings as you did, it’s normal, trust us. People are always unsteady before such big changes take place, it is the primordial flight or flee mechanism in action, ensuring that you are making the right decision. So, do not feel guilty about experiencing these emotions, they are just a part of the evolutionary experience that has brought us as a species to this point of advancement, and without them we may all still be cave dwellers.
Movie time!
Every year there are dozens of ‘chick flicks’ released about weddings, they cover the broad spectrum of wedding related shenanigans, from jitters, to exes and everything that could possible go wrong. These aspirational movies are usually performed for laughs and comedy is a central theme, watch some of these and it will help you to relax, as well as helping you to focus on some of the themes which may arise during your own wedding day. In addition, getting a husband to be to watch these movies is a good way to train him in the art of being a good husband, as well as giving him a taster of what he can expect to happen during the day, from start to finish.
Check it out
Most importantly of all is to keep a check list of things that need to be done, and assign dates to each important even. This way you will always feel like you are on top of the project, as well as feeling an additional sense of achievement as each item is successfully ticked off the list. If there is no check list, the amount of things that need to be done can seem enormous and cause to increased nerves and feelings of pressure. However, the simple check list makes everything much easier, tasks can be assigned, deadlines set and then you just need to ensure that everything is done on time.
